IntuitiveBridges - Alan Bridges

This past week I returned to London. It was my first trip back in quite a long time (summer’s a busy season in the rural vegetable patch) and so my diary was packed. There was shopping to do. I had a list of places to visit. And most importantly, I wanted to catch up with old friends.

Re-establishing the old bonds happened instantly and effortlessly. It was like slipping into a comfortable pair of slippers. We nestled into cosy coffeehouses from Islington to Kensington, exchanging stories and just updating each other.

But one particular friend came to me with a bit of a running drama in her life that she desperately needed some help with.

Their story isn’t uncommon. She and husband have been married for a number of years. And together they are very happy. However, she finds it very difficult to be with his friends. She has been convinced from the beginning that they don’t like her. Almost with tears in her eyes, she related how it seems that no matter what she does she cannot win their acceptance.

As I listened to her, an image formed in my mind. It was one of two magnets. If you’ve ever played with two magnets you’ll know that apart they attract objects. But when two magnets face off, they repeal each other with incredible force.

In my work as a psychic and an intuitive, I have come to know that I don’t see such images out of chance or by accident. Images like this one are symbols. And so I tuned into her energy to find out what advice this one had to offer.

I found my thoughts and then our conversation turning to the Newtonian law that states for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. It was clear to me that this was the solution to her problem. Whilst understanding it as a fundamental law, she had the quizzical look of disbelief that physics could solve her life issue. So I had to explain.

She had entered the world of her husband like a magnet – attracting him to her and vice versa. But there was already a magnet in his life – his friends. And so when these two magnets got together they couldn’t help but push each other apart. The harder she tried to get closer the more she increased her magnetic power and the farther away she pushed the other magnet in her husband’s life. She was starting to understand.

One conclusion she had no trouble reaching on her own was that at that point in time she felt that her husband’s friends hated her. And since we agreed that there seemed to be nothing she could do about it, I suggested that she admit defeat. Since there’s nothing you can do to make them like you, I said, let them not like you. Make peace with it.

Sometimes life isn’t what we want it to be. But the harder we try to make it something else the more elusive the desired state becomes. And yet too many of us continue to hit our head’s against a brick wall – wondering why we are emotional wrecks, with massive headaches not to mention heartaches.

To accept the current state of a situation doesn’t mean that we have to like it or that we don’t wish it was different. But it’s a way of surrendering to what we cannot change. It’s actually much easier than we think because what we are really doing is forgiving ourselves for failing to be able to do the impossible.

Since nothing else had worked, my friend was open to my suggestions. I told her to go home – where her husband and his friends would be – and not try. Now I wasn’t recommending that she be impolite to them. But just not try to win them over. Instead, I suggested that she just mentally send them peace and try to enjoy herself as best she could.

The next morning as agreed she rang me to let me know how it went. And before you had to say anything I could feel the relief and relaxation in her voice. She said it was like magic. She stopped trying – read acting. And they stopped resisting – read reacting. A surprisingly lovely evening was had by all.

Sometimes the best thing we can do is to stop acting, which in turn stops the reacting. You might think that a law of physics doesn’t have a place in your life. But when you consider that we are energetic beings it starts to make sense.

If there’s an area of your life that isn’t working out no matter what you do or how hard you try, then try this. Stop. Accept it. Make peace with the way things are. And then forgive yourself for trying to do what you cannot. You’ll be surprised at how quickly and miraculously things change.

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Until next week,

Kindest regards,